D is for Daughter-in-law
I'm back on my diet of shorter posts. The one I fixed for yesterday was certainly more than a mouthful.
Whoever thought up the term "daughter-in-law" must not have been on good terms with one. Don't you think it sounds like someone who's just an entity in a legal contract? It's too cold and impersonal for my tastes. Thankfully, I can say that in our family's case, being on good terms with our son's wife and mother of our grandson has been delightfully easy and a real blessing.
We don't have the same heritage. We may not always agree on everything. We do share a common love and bond that's too strong for human willfulness to break. I think our differences make us stronger.
The term "daughter-in-law" in Spanish is hija politica. I don't care for it either. Politica? Yuck! An emphatic No! to that word. I've decided to give our Peruvian lady in question a much better title: nuestra Dios, la hija de. I hope it's okay, grammatically, that is. It sounds downright poetic, I think. Now we're speakin' the same language.
Cumpleanos feliz, Daughter of Our God!
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So many words for the letter D and you chose your Daugher in law. That is awesome!
ReplyDeleteI try to be a good DIL to the Saints parents. We had a brief "bad time" but we worked it out and are now closer then ever.
The Saint is a good Son in law to my parents. My dad gave him the name "The Saint" so that should tell ya something...
You know, I think you've made a good point--I've never really thought about it.
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Thanks. And I truly appreciate your efforts.
Lee
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Hi W2W .. I answered your Down/Up question over on my blog - a history lesson?! But fun to know.
ReplyDeleteDIL .. good word for D .. and I endorse your points you're bonded by your son's choice - that's important and love just is - Daughter of Our God .. sounds right to me .. Cheers Hilary
I'm not a big fan of the word 'daughter-in-law' either. Bleck is what I say!
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There are alot of words that don't make sence you found a good one. Whats up with all the in-laws, think about it...In-laws and then there are out-laws..hmmmm...
ReplyDeleteThank you! I have often wondered that. Half the people here in Mexico call me Hija and we're not even related!
ReplyDeletehe he ... in my native language, Serbian, we have a separate word for daughter-in-law, son-in-law, even mother and father-in-law. We actually have dozens of different words for different relatives. It's probably one of the few fields in which we have more words than English does.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to see mothers who are on good terms and even love their DIL.Nice post.
ReplyDeleteYou are absoultely right...Daughter in Law shoulds horrible. It falls off the tongue like an insult. I hadn't given it any thought. My son is getting married in June and I will now need to think of something more apporiate for his lovely bride. Thank you for bringing this to my attention. :)
ReplyDeleteYou are a sweet Mother of our God, W2W.
ReplyDeleteHello W2W.
ReplyDeleteThis post reminds me that I was a daughter-in-law of my mother-in- law who passed away 2 years ago. She was a sweet and broad-minded woman I liked very much. I have no idea what she thought of me,though. As I don't have a son, fortunately or unfortunately I'll never have a daughter-in-law in the future. Thank you, W2W, for this D post. Her sweet memory is all coming back now.
In Hindi 9one of the languages I speak, DIL means heart. Hindi has different words for all the relations: DIL is Bahu, MIL is Saas, FIL is Sasur, SIL is Nanad, BIL is devar if older, bhasur if younger....I'm sure you want me to stop now lol
ReplyDeleteI had a wonderful relationship with my "MIL" so much so that it even survived the divorce from her son. We laughed that I got "custody" of her and I'm so glad I did. She passed 2 years ago and I still miss her.
ReplyDeleteI had a fabulous relationship with my MIL and m;y husband did with my mum. From talking with friends it seems we were in the minority. I hope when the time comes I have equally good relationships with their partners. I think you're on to something with the tern Daughter of our God and I'd like to add Son of our God too. Sue@JumpingAground (Alliteration & drabbles)
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